Live in a circle of no circumference and find Joyful Empowerment

Ghandi said " Live in a circle of no circumference".
The notion evoked a smile for me but I confess I was a bit at odds with the seeming paradox. A circle is complete in and of itself....isn't it? I recall my mum saying " a circle is round and has no end" . Great!

I wonder though, if Ghandi was talking about expansion and growth? When we give the thought more context we can make a bit more sense. All the elements of our persona exist within a zone that we define and call our "space' . We define that space by identifying where it ends . We call that our comfort zone and we typically live well inside or close to the edge of that . The invitation today is to extend yourself beyond your comfort zone....take a good look at what qualities sit inside the zone ....choose to change what no longer is useful...and stretch!

Make a committment today to extend yourself beyond your comfort level.

Why would I invite you to do that? You can't grow and develop..and stay the same! And the thing is....when you adopt this position you will find " change is the new comfortable! " And it is in this space that the extra-ordinary happens. I recall once being financially unresourced after a relationship breakup. Not much JOY in being consistently in my overdraft. I made a conscious choice to go to that which I had been resisting....Landmark.

Friends had suggested I do Landmark to achieve a breakthrough in my finances. I did not have sufficient funds, but I did have a voucher and some cash and determined I would offer to be a contribution. My thought was to do that by way of a contra, as the means to get to do the course that weekend. I also had resistance based on pre-conceived ideas about the Landmark training.

I went immediately into their city office and made my offer. There were about 8 or 9 times in the first 10 minutes when the conversation could have ended and I could have left the building. I chose to persist and finally was in front of the manager. I had my book with me ( self published), 100's of testimonials, and my bank statements. I made my offer to pay part with the money I had, and to do some training or a presentation to staff or volunteers by way of a contra. I pointed out to the manager how I was owning that the book, the testimonials and the empty bank account were not exactly a match and that I was committed to achieve a breakthough in my finances( read self worth) .

The manager said "I am sorry but thats not possible. " Some of you may know part of Landmarks "signature" is they dance in possibility. So when she said that to me I said " Well if thats not possible ....what is?"

Then I was SILENT!
For quite some time. :)
First person to speak loses....:)

She said..."You are amazing.....just a minute" and rang someone who gave me a funded program!! Just like that.

But here's the thing. What I noticed along this path was all the times I might have:-

1. given up,


2. accepted what was said,


3. or generally complied in the past.

This time though, I kept asking questions and as I did I could see how I had been being in previous encounters. My response to rebuttal previously had been to walk away.

I walked in to that office at 4.20pm and walked out at 4.35. Mission achieved.

So my point? Here's a question. Why are you where you are at in your life? Whether you know the answer or not you still have a point of choice. Choose to be responsible...and response - able. Here you will find FREEDOM and what I call Joyful Empowerment. When you go to that which has you ... and renders you to a degree of powerlessness....you notice very quickly that it is not there. You see you have gone beyond it. The edge of the circle of comfort....the comfort zone is expanded and things will never be the same! When we allow vulnerability we find new power. We can then stand in that power and be a demand for what we want. We become more "attractive" and people hear us differently.

So as you step out this week first thing ...draw yourself a circle. This is your circle of influence. Choose one item where you would like a shift and write it in the circle. Then imagine yourself stepping out of the circle into circumstances that will support you to grow to another level. Feel the rising confidence and listen to your feelings . They will be your guide. Maintain your posture..stand tall...imagine the feeling of being admired and acknowledged for your courage and willingness to chnage. Listen to what people will be saying for their conversation with you will be different. And your circumstances will shift.

This is just one aspect of what is available in my coaching and you are welcome to ask questions or comment!
Pat